i know we all like 2 joke abt being absolutely useless lesbians but tbh its not funny, its pretty sad, like… its been so ingrained in us that any affection from a girl is purely platonic, “no homo”, that the “no homo” doesnt even have to be said anymore, we just assume its there, even when we know the other girl likes girls as well, we are so convinced that no girl could possibly flirt w us, n were so inexperienced w girls due to this that even when girls do flirt w us, we dont recognise it, we lack the experience to know how girls flirt (bcs its vastly different from how men flirt) n due to that we jus… never recognise anything, we think the other girl is jus being friendly… so its not so much that lesbians are inherently “useless”, its that were so alienated from the thought that girls could flirt w us, n were seen as predatory when we do flirt w girls whom we dont 100% know to be sga, n even then, so that we have absolutely 0 experience w flirting, which leads to us not recognising genuine flirting… this “no homo” mentality on top of our inexperience w wlw romance leads to us being so “useless”, so its not our fault or an inherent character trait, its a society which alienates us from the idea that other girls are sga as well n thus leads us to think that everyone, no matter how obviously theyre flirting w us, is jus being “friendly”
everyone can reblog n ofc this applies to bi women as well, but this post is abt lesbians mainly
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